Letter to a Parent of a High School Senior

Dear Parent of a High School Senior,

Oof.  You made it.

It may not have been pretty (or maybe it was awesome!) but as you and your child step into senior year together, take a moment to reflect on everything that got your family to where you are now.

And regarding stepping into this year together - I truly mean that.  Your child is hopefully advocating for themselves at school and a fairly independent teenager, but this is the last year where they will be depending on you in this same way.

Let that sink in.

If you’re feeling like you need time to slow down, I want you to know that it won’t - but don’t feel guilty about doting a little extra on your senior.  Don’t feel guilty about baking their favorite cookies, or taking them to their favorite restaurant on the opposite side of town. Let yourself embrace this time and revel in it.  Make it a positive time.

I was at an event today when a mom mentioned, “I think we’re trying to avoid that it’s time.  It’s time to do this. But we don’t feel ready.” I wanted to squeeze her in a hug! I wanted her to know that she may never feel ready but that good things are coming for her child thanks to her love and support.

Looking forward, be prepared for a continuation of lots of post-high school talk.  Be open and forthcoming and willing to talk about all of their plans. Remember that they are probably nervous and might want to talk through things more often than necessary.  If it’s college, your family has hopefully already begun the steps necessary for your child to land softly on the right campus. If it’s not college, I still highly recommend for conversations to happen now.  Now’s the time for preparation so there are no questions during the celebratory time of high school graduation.

Know that it is okay to still have any less than positive feelings about this next step.  Feeling anxious, scared, nervous, not ready - it’s valid. That’s why taking advantage of every moment this year is so important.  But also remember that senior year isn’t the end. There are so, so many good memories and times to come. It might look a little different, but the journey has just begun.

Congratulations, parents.  I am so proud of you and your kid.  I hope you are too.

Here to support you,

Carly